Dating is an exciting process. Whether the person you find is your forever partner or a temporary match, it’s easy to put unrealistic expectations on them, even subconsciously. Luckily, there are many ways to overcome these in a relationship before they get out of control.
Common Unrealistic Expectations in Dating (And Overcoming Them)
1. Understanding Needs Without Communication
One of the most common expectations in a relationship is a desire for the partner to understand what you need – without telling them anything. Although a partner can be in tune with your emotions, they aren’t mind-readers. They can’t predict what you want or need.
To solve this issue, all you need to do is focus on communication. If you need something, find a clear and kind way to speak to your partner. It will make it far easier to work together.
2. Thinking There Will Be No Conflict
Many assume there will be no conflict in a relationship, and when the first fight happens, it might feel like the world is imploding. There’s no need for this negative mindset, healthy conflicts are some of the best ways to communicate and grow together while dating.
Of course, there are healthy and unhealthy conflicts. Ensure you understand each other’s communication styles and practice to make your conflicts effective. Arguments should always be resolved in a way that allows you to learn about each other, not just yelling.
3. Your Partner Will Change
Another unrealistic expectation is that your partner will change. Maybe there’s something you don’t like about them, although they could change, there is no way to force it out of them. Trying to make them change also isn’t healthy for your dating experience.
If there is an issue, bring it up to them. That’s the point of dating, if an obstacle is too big, you don’t have to commit. You are different people and will have varying expectations throughout your life.
Hi! My name is Kimmy B, I am the co-host of the We’reHard podcast. I have a passion for fitness, nutrition and a healthy lifestyle. I’ve always loved working out and staying active but recently found my groove in the fitness industry.