Sometimes, you break up with someone, and it’s time to let them go forever, relegating them to something that happened in the past. Other times, it makes sense to provide your ex with a second chance. Several moments indicate its relationship to get back together with your ex.
When is Getting Back With an Ex a Bad Idea?
Many times, getting back together with an ex is a terrible plan. Consider whether it’s a good idea if there is infidelity, a lack of friendship, backsliding when you are with them, no future, and a lustful relationship rather than love. Every situation differs, so do not make the decision lightly.
Times to Give Your Ex a Second Chance
1. Specific Apologies
One of the best signs it’s time to give your ex a second chance is if they are making specific apologies. Instead of apologizing for things generally, they take responsibility for specific, individual items. They know where they went wrong and can admit it.
Most of the time, speaking on these specific apologies means they care about you and what happened. They genuinely care and want to begin afresh. Of course, this isn’t every circumstance, so consider your situation accordingly.
2. Obvious Change
Another sign of potential rekindling of a relationship is if you see a change in your ex from the person they were before. This shift should be significant and portrayed in their actions, not just words. It should also be tested and proven over a long period: don’t just take them at their word if they haven’t shown themselves dependable yet.
3. They Want to Try and Move Slow
If your ex wants to get back together and supports moving slowly rather than rushing into things, that’s a good sign. It means they don’t just want the relationship for superficial items.
4. You’ve Grown
Maybe it’s you who has grown and is better equipped to face your ex with a mature standing. Maybe you’ve even realized you were the one in the wrong. Maybe you’ve both grown together.
5. Clear Growth
A final indication that getting back together is a possibility is if it’s obvious they’ve grown. Time matures. Sometimes, an ex might need a few months or years to evolve into a more dateable individual. Try going to the start before getting close again: have a first date. Talk about the future. Learn about this new person.
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