You may have heard the term consent used often, and you likely practice it yourself in various ways throughout the day. While consent is about more than just sex, it is a fundamental aspect of any sexual encounter that you will have. It ensures that all parties involved are comfortable and willing participants. At its core, consent means that a person should freely choose to engage in sexual activity without any form of pressure, manipulation, or intoxication. But what does that look like in action?
The Elements of Clear Consent
A simple “yes” is not always enough to constitute consent. It is defined as agreement that has all of these elements:
- Enthusiastic: Consent should be given with excitement and eagerness. If someone seems hesitant or unsure, it’s a signal to stop and communicate more openly about their comfort level.
- Specific: Consent for one activity does not imply consent for another. It’s important to ask for and give consent for each specific act.
- Reversible: Anyone can change their mind about what they want to do, anytime. Even if consent was given at first, it can be withdrawn at any point.
- Informed: All parties should be fully aware of what they are consenting to. This includes understanding any risks involved and the use of protection.
- Mutual: Consent should be a two-way street. Both partners need to express and affirm their willingness to engage in the sexual activity.
Communicating Consent In the Bedroom
Open and honest communication is key to ensuring consent, and partners should feel comfortable discussing their boundaries and desires. Asking questions like “Is this okay?” or “Do you want to stop?” can help keep consent at the center of any intimacy, and non-verbal cues like body language can also be important.
Remember, consent is about mutual respect and ensuring that everyone involved feels safe and valued for more fulfilling intimacy.
Hi! My name is Kimmy B, I am the co-host of the We’reHard podcast. I have a passion for fitness, nutrition and a healthy lifestyle. I’ve always loved working out and staying active but recently found my groove in the fitness industry.