Expectations are natural for any human being, especially when concerning relationships. With a long-term romantic partner, it’s vital to balance expectations with reality for a healthy dynamic.
How Can You Set Realistic Expectations In a Relationship?
It’s one thing to say setting realistic expectations is necessary and another to embark on that journey. There are a few techniques you can use to create this healthy dynamic.
Some of the best ways to set realistic expectations include the following:
- Know “need” versus “want”: Determine items you’d like from your partner and things you need, helping to create realistic expectations from your partner.
- See personal values: Know what matters most to you in your relationship. Once you know these, it will be easier to determine what you need most from your partner.
- Create possible goals: Try to make your goals achievable, starting with one step at a time.
How To Balance Ideals With Realities
In a long-term relationship, it’s valuable to learn how to balance ideals with realities. This ability will grow over time as you learn more about your partner.
To balance ideals with realities, here are some helpful tips:
- Keep their dreams in mind: You both have dreams and expectations. Keep both in mind as you adjust ideals with reality, and they do the same.
- Adjust expectations as needed: As time continues, you’ll be able to adjust expectations as necessary.
- Know imperfections are normal: A partner not meeting your expectations is normal and should create an opportunity for communication.
Why Are Crazy Expectations Dangerous?
The most dangerous aspect of dreamlike expectations in a relationship, especially a long-term one, is when they clash with reality. They can form a sense of constant disappointment in each other, unhealthy communication tactics, and slowly rising tension that eventually explodes. Unrealistic expectations are a ticking time bomb for a healthy dynamic.

Hi! My name is Kimmy B, I am the co-host of the We’reHard podcast. I have a passion for fitness, nutrition and a healthy lifestyle. I’ve always loved working out and staying active but recently found my groove in the fitness industry.