Love is critical in any relationship, but friendship is the core that will keep a couple together. If you aren’t friends, it’s much harder to remain on the same page when the going gets tough. There are several ways you can foster a friendship to ensure you’re as prepared to support and love each other as possible.
Why Does Friendship Matter In A Romantic Relationship?
Friendship matters in a romantic relationship because, as human beings, we have an intrinsic desire to feel safe and secure. Being friends with your partner will bring emotional and physical safety, allowing you to have an understanding of each other that makes communication and fun far easier to access.
How To Become Friends In Your Romantic Relationship
1. Show Genuine Interest In What They Enjoy
First, take an interest in what they enjoy. What are they interested in? What are the things they enjoy doing? Take time out of your schedule to show them you care about what they love. This statement goes the other way, too – you both should be able to express your interests with an apparent genuineness that will help you become closer.
2. Be On Their Team
In all things rational, be on their side. Are they encountering a frustrating obstacle in their life? Ensure you let them know you’re there to provide support. Maybe they’re feeling emotionally let down. Listen to what they say and bring an emotional outlet for them. Again – this should go both ways to become friends.
3. Communicate
Always, always communicate. For a healthy romantic relationship, communication is at the core. The more you talk to each other about the little and big things, the closer friends you will become. With friendship comes more vulnerability and security in your communication, in turn making you better partners.
4. Make Room For Autonomy
Finally, ensure you and your partner provide room to become individuals. You can’t be in a romantic relationship if you don’t know yourself, and knowing yourself will make you a better friend to your loved one. Autonomy is part of a healthy romantic relationship with friendship at the center.
I have been an ace certified personal trainer for over 15 years. Other certifications include kettlebells, TRX, battling ropes, Vpr, yoga fit, AFFA group fitness and more. I have two children who love the gym as much as I do.