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Consent Before You Kiss: Why Asking For Permission Matters

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If you asked most individuals, they’d likely reveal consent is necessary before intercourse. However, fewer would be familiar with asking for consent before kissing. No matter your understanding, you should always ask before a kiss – no matter how well you know your partner. 

What is Proper Consent?

The basic understanding of consent is a person agreeing to something of their own free will. It’s an agreement between both people participating in the activity and must be clear and communicated freely. The core of proper consent is effective communication and understanding.

It’s vital to remember that consent can be withdrawn at any moment. Just because one party initially agrees doesn’t mean they can’t change their mind later.

Why Does Consent Before Kissing Matter?

It’s vital to ask for consent before kissing because the act involves getting very close to a person and potentially invading their space and privacy. Especially if it’s your first time kissing a person, it’s critical to ask their permission before making your move. It’s worth the moment of awkwardness so you are all on the same page!

When you ask someone for consent in kissing, you need a verbal yes of their own free will. If they say no to a kiss, take a step back and respect how they feel. Don’t push them to change their mind.

How To Ask For Consent Before Kissing?

Asking for permission might seem odd if you aren’t accustomed to it, which is why it’s helpful to have a formula to go through the first time. Once you ask for consent, it will be easy to include it in every single encounter you have.

Here are some tips for asking for consent before kissing:

  • Ask permission: Explicitly ask the other person for permission before moving forward with a kiss.
  • Confirm interest: Ensure they are interested in kissing you and don’t feel forced into the situation.
  • Let them know you can stop: Inform them you can pull back from the kiss anytime. 

Amber K

I have been an ace certified personal trainer for over 15 years. Other certifications include kettlebells, TRX, battling ropes, Vpr, yoga fit, AFFA group fitness and more. I have two children who love the gym as much as I do.