STDs aren’t a fun topic, especially if they’re part of your life and it’s time to come clean to your partner. While it might seem more comfortable to avoid the topic, it’s vital to tell your partner if they could be exposed to STDs. They are life-altering for a reason and it’s your responsibility to let them know before proceeding with any intimacy.
Why Bring Up STDS?
The natural reaction to STDs might be to avoid telling your partner at all costs. However, that’s a terrible attitude.
Bringing up STDs is critical for the following reasons:
- It allows them time to get treatment if you’ve been intimate.
- It allows them time to get treatment if you are already treated, so it doesn’t come back to you.
- It shows you care for them.
- It’s illegal not to tell them in many locations.
How To Bring Up STDs on a Date
Be Direct
First things first, be direct when telling your partner about STDs. There’s no point dancing around the question. Consider what would happen if you were in their shoes. Would you want someone to skirt around the topic or get straight to the point?
By being direct, there is more time for discussion and questions. It makes no sense to waste hours, days, and weeks avoiding the subject and truth.
Don’t Push Decisions
After telling your partner about STDs, a natural reaction is panic. They might want to get out of the relationship or get as far away from you as possible. While this reaction can hurt, it’s natural. Don’t push them to make massive decisions at that moment, and provide some time for them to think through their decision.
Prepare to Answer Questions
Finally, ensure you’re ready to answer questions they have. Honesty is the best policy, especially in such a vulnerable time for you and your partner. Answer with love, and don’t treat any question they have as stupid.
Hi! My name is Kimmy B, I am the co-host of the We’reHard podcast. I have a passion for fitness, nutrition and a healthy lifestyle. I’ve always loved working out and staying active but recently found my groove in the fitness industry.